Battles Against Media's Idea Of the Perfect Woman
Posted by Dorothy Lafrinere on: 2005-08-23 21:58:53
news, and looking for anything that I can find to make me feel that
there is still hope for our world. If you have read any of my past
articles, then you will already know where my concerns lie.
For those of you that are just reading me for the first time, my
concerns are strong regarding women of today and their search for the
true identity of themselves.
Women today have fierce competition. I have spoken to many men also
and they have strongly let me know that they would not trade their
gender for any amount of money. They actually feel sorry for the women
of today. A few of them even shared with me that they hate the fact
that everywhere they look, the media's idea of, "The Perfect Women" is
stuck in their faces. Sure its nice to see, any human being will
appreciate a nice looking picture. What happens at that very minute
though is that they (the men) are put in a situation of feeling that
they are betraying their partner by not knowing exactly how to react.
I know, I know, some of you are thinking that it is the women's fault
that the men think that way. I will agree in some cases, but these men
that I have spoken to were being quite genuine in the fact that they
themselves did not appreciate it.
I will be the first one to say yes to prostitution. Why? Because it
keeps the damn rapists of the streets from attacking the unwilling
women. I say yes to pornography; it keeps the men that are afraid to
approach real women relieved of a very needed natural release. I also
say yes to alcohol and to chocolate with ice cream, but my dear
readers, before you frown on me for what I just said, hear me say
this. "I do not condone the force and uncontrolled manor with which
the media shoves all this down our throats. I thought this was a free
country. When did we lose the right to choose whether we want to have
the media's idea of, "The Perfect Woman", shoved down our throats
every time we turn on the television, walk into a bar, just drive down
the road (billboards), open a magazine, listen to a song, or even
simply look in our teenagers room."
I was reading an article that was advertising the new television line
ups for this falls season. I was horrified when I read about the
graphic violence being used against women. Episodes showing a woman
thrashing in a cage, with duct tape across her eyes, while a man's
hands are shown grabbing her bloodied fingers through the bars of the
cage and ripping off her fingernails. Another is chained up like a dog
in a basement by her so called loving husband. It gets worse; there is
also one with a woman paralyzed by venomous spider bites and is being
raped by a masked figure. These are what society is allowing for after
dinner viewing. I am embarrassed to even say that this is my world
seeing this. They made more noise when Janet Jackson slipped a peak of
her nipple at a damn football game. In a word...SAD!! The media has
definitely figured out how to make money at every woman's expense.
On a much happier note, in my searching the worlds media I did find a
very refreshing commercial put out by DOVE. It can be viewed at their
website: www.campaignforrealbeauty.com . "Cheers Dove" is all I can say. Dove is pushing hard and continuing an uphill climb to bring back what was put on this earth as, The Real Women.
I also ran into an article trying to cut this refreshing change down.
The magazine people that pride themselves on using air-brushed models
with unrealistic looks, called the Dove girls in this commercial,
"civilians". Ha! Now that is a very obvious show of defeat. They're
even trying to say that women of today will not want to buy from ads
that do not promise you unrealistic beauty. Ladies, the media is in
fact calling you stupid as far as I read. I take that as an out right
insult.
It's about time that someone stood up and gave the media's negative
actions a run for their money. Money made at real women's expense, as
I said already once. They also mention something as silly as women
worry if they looked fat in their pants, as being an old age
insecurity. DUH! No one ever said it was new, jeesh. I am also curious
just how far women today are willing to let the media's idea of "The
Perfect Woman" go. We are already the butt-end of the cosmetic surgery
joke. I feel that the only reason any woman would be turned off by
Dove's real women, is because they have been so brain washed into
thinking that the media's idea of "The Perfect Women" is what is
real. I feel sorry for them. Ladies of today, we must stand up and
fight back. Do not let them turn, what is suppose to be real, into
barbie dolls.
So many women are confused about what is, and what is not. Why do you
think so many women suffer from low self-esteem, with cosmetic surgery
at every street corner and so many unrealistic expectations coming to
us from the media on how a women is suppose to look? Blah, blah. It's
no wonder women are so confused.
Well I know that there is strength in numbers and I do know that
there are more women today that are sick of all of the media's ideas.
Ladies with low-self esteem, stand up, go to the store, and support
DOVE. So what? They make money and yes, maybe there is a bit of truth
that they too are using us as a way to profit. But at least we have a
place to start to turn things around. We will never be able to turn
them back, but we can make them work for us, not against us. Oh if
anyone thinks that Dove has asked me, or payed me to speak of them in
my blog, NO and NO. I am speaking on behalf of every women out there
has been damaged by all the garbage that the media is trying to run
our world with. Womens Selfesteem.com is happy to say that Dove is
doing a very good thing, on the "real women" of today's behalf.
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"Don't back down just to keep the peace,
Standing up for your beliefs builds self-confidence and self-esteem."
-Oprah Winfrey
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