Jealousy : A Lonely Place To Be!
Posted by Dorothy Lafrinere on: 2005-08-01 21:25:40
hold on a persons mind. Not only their mind, but their entire being.
I have been asking and asking questions regarding jealousy from
people that experience it and people that have to deal with it through
someone close to them.
I have written an article and I will let you read part of it before I
continue with my thoughts.
"Jealousy as many women knows is a very hard emotion to control , it
takes your stomach and twists it into knots until you scream for
release. Problem is when we scream it is usually misunderstood and
frowned upon.
Jealousy has a mind of its own and it is strong enough to make us
believe and see things that are not even there or that have not
happened yet.
Jealousy can cloud our what is most of the time clear thinking.
Jealousy can make us worry and put our minds into a prison that we
cannot escape, it locks the doors and does not let us out till it wants
to.
Jealousy can keep our minds from sleep because it knows that sleep
makes us strong and will help us to fight it.
Jealousy knows no rational thinking , feels as though it has no reason
or rhyme, which makes it very hard to get support from people around
us, and even harder to try to explain why we react as we do when we are
captivated by this horrible emotion.
Jealousy does have a weakness though and that is LOVE and TRUST and
women helping women to figure ways to combat this nasty thing that
grows inside of us.
Jealousy can be redirected and from our site and all the help of women
out there joining together we will defeat this , one step at a time.
I will not stop till I unlock and set myself free from Jealousy."
Jealousy is very much connected or may be even caused by ones low
self-esteem. It depends on the elements that each person experiences.
People of every size and gender can be afflicted by this emotional
nightmare. It truly is a mind set.
There are several types of jealousy: mistrust caused by a breach of
trust. mistrust caused by ones own infidelities, and the real beast
that is born inside us without any reason we can explain.
Each one is a hardship and pulls us down into the loneliest place.
Imagine having a fear, and your mouth is glued shut so you are unable
to voice your pain and terror. This is a small example of how a person
feels when their jealousy takes a hold of their mind. If they talk
about it, they appear accusing and confrontational. Others feel they
are being attacked for something they have no control of. It truly is a
no win situation for anyone involved. But to keep it glued inside only
gives birth to an ugly seed of pain ,agony and real loneliness.
Jealousy feeds on our strength making us weak in our judgement of
what is real and whats not. We are in a prison that separates us from a
world of happiness.
Why I ask? Why are we in this prison of jealousy, when we did not ask
to be? We broke no rules to be punished for. When we look at another
person, we see only what we wish to be.
Jealousy blinds us of who we are and what we have to offer to the
world. Jealousy captivates our minds to the point of no return in many
cases has caused terrible results.
People think that one can just say "Go Away". We wish it was that
easy. If jealousy could be defeated with a mere thought, we would be in
a truly perfect world. Do you really think we enjoy this lonely place
of jealousy? I know that I would much rather be in a happy place
anytime.
Jealousy does have one fear, that is "Love". Love conquers all and
that is as real as the pain we feel inside when we are imprisoned by
the fears of jealousy.
Also as funny as it sounds, to trust a person imprisoned by jealousy
is as important as wanting that person to trust you. We need to know
that you trust us and that you know that we are not in control of this
thing that causes us to fear life.
To know you are on our side and want to help us defeat this
loneliness, will truly give us that extra bit of strength that we need
and the will to combat our own fears and jealousy.
We also need to focus on our minds and through help from our friends
and others that feel our loneliness, use that strength to work against
the negative thoughts that jealousy controls. We must tell ourselves
that we are safe, we are loved, and we are needed. We must focus on the
good around us and use our thought energy to force positive thoughts in
place of negative jealousy ones. When we do defeat our negative mind,
we should pat ourselves on our backs, because this is truly a conquest.
Identify with the fact that you have won and the win will be greater
the next time. It will happen, we just need to continue to search for
ways to a higher self-esteem.
Together ladies we will conquer this loneliness. Strength is in
numbers and that we have. To close my thoughts, I leave you with a
quote sent to me by one of my sweetest friends and member of my
website.
Stacy , you are beautiful and thank you again.
"We delight in the beauty of the butterfly, but rarely admit the
changes it has gone through to achieve that beauty."
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