Relationships Articles & News
Playful, Innocent Phone Sex
So you're sitting there on the phone, trying to talk to your girlfriend or boyfriend whom you haven't seen in a while and you're trying to keep things interesting by talking about the days events, how much you miss each other, etc.
Importance Of Background In A Relationship
Should coming from the same background be a major issue in a relationship? In the 90s, one of the major things we sometimes overlook in a relationship is our partner's background. To us, 'what's love got to do with background'? But the truth is that coming from the same background can enhance a relationship. Our background develops our values and ideas about love, life and relationship.
Great Relationships: 7 Secrets You Must Know to Make It
1. Commitment True commitment means much more than simply committing to staying married. Here's one of my favorite quotes about marriage: "When you marry, you don't marry one person, you marry three: The person you think he is; the person he really is; and the person he is going to become as a result of marrying you." Key strategy: Genuine commitment involves being committed to the growth and best interest of your partner. Or as one wise ...
Support for Non ADD Spouses and Partners
Living with adult ADD can be quite a challenge. Not only is it a challenge for the actual person who has ADD but for those around him or her. Much needed understanding and support for adults with ADD has finally begun to surface. But what about the people who have chosen to love, honor and cherish adults with ADD? Where do they go for support and understanding? Who is going to help them cope with the challenges of adult ADD?
To Hold or to Set One Free!
Hope you all are doing well and enjoying great health. There were terrorist attacks in London and even here in India we are facing many natural calamities; but as they say, everything in life is having some purpose and one must learn to carry on.
Great Relationships: 4 More Dumb MIstakes and 4 Smarter Moves to Make
1) Treat the family you have come from as more important than the family you are creating. Put your parents' opinion and happiness above those of your spouse. Spend more time with them than you do your own family. Invite them into marital disputes. Share private knowledge with them.
Relationship Advice: Two Tips for Great Relationships
Relationship Tip 1 I've been blessed with working with thousands of couples over the last 25 years. Out of all those couples, it has been very very rare to see a situation where both people did not have their fingerprints on the mess. In other words, in most cases, both partners have their fingerprints on the mess before them. So the question becomes, even if right now you think your partner is the biggest jerk in the whole world, the question still becomes, what is ...
Relationship Advice: Warning Signs of an Emotional Affair
"But we're just friends" are four of the most dangerous words for your marriage. But over and over in my office and on the phone I hear it: "We are just friends, there is nothing going on." The majority of extramarital affairs begin as "just friends." While it is certainly true that there are affairs that begin with impulsive one-night stands with a stranger, the most common ones that I see begin as "just friends." In fact, if you find yourself thinking or saying "but we ...
Affairs: Advice for the One Who Strayed
To the spouse who had the affair, it's time for what I call a multilevel apology. Anyone can say "I'm sorry," and it's important those words are spoken. Then follow up with an acknowledgment of the pain you caused and a commitment to never let it happen again. In order to rebuild trust, you must be willing to live under a microscope for an indeterminate time. It will stink and be very uncomfortable. But it's a necessary part of rebuilding trust. One of ...
Forgiveness and Forgetting
As the blinding flash of lightening and the rumbling roar of thunder, so it is with surprises and ideas. And especially with our own “ah-ha!” moments!
Why He May Be Cheating On You
Why He May Be Cheating On You There could be all sorts of reasons known only to your man, but there are also those reasons in which women may contribute to, such as: You Let Yourself Go, You Lost Yourself In Him, or You Have No Ambition along with many others. Sometimes women live for their men. They spend all their waking time taking care of them, and at the end of the day, they still haven't accomplished anything for themselves. You are thinking all alone that this is ...
Tips for Building Love Relationships 1
Nearly everyone claims to want a great relationship with their significant other. But what do they do? Same old thing over and over, and then wonder why it all went bad.
Why Do Men Cheat?
In my relationship work, this question is probably the one I hear most often. It is not an easy question to answer. The usual glib answer; “because they can”, is really not good enough. People, particularly women, want to know the reason why men cheat, or more particularly, why their man cheated.
Before Falling Truly and Madly in Love Ask Each Other 10 Pertinent Questions
Falling in love…aaahh what a wonderful experience the first flushes of love are. The heart starts pounding, our temperature rises, and the butterflies begin fluttering whenever the girl/boy of our dreams enters the room. The world looks so…well…rosy. Not only that, life suddenly becomes much more exciting. From my own experiences the heady excitement of first love really did my head in – for some reason commonsense flew out the window…well in the short term anyway. I started accepting ...
One of The Main Reasons Why Relationships Fall Apart
I had the priviledge to try out a BMW M5 at a BMW dealership. It is one of the most refined race cars that is ever built. The interior is all leather, the V8 engine produces 398 horse power, navigation system, and wow, you gotta try it yourself.
Why It's Important to Stay in Contact with Your Friends when You're in a Relationship
So often when we begin to enter into a new relationship, it is very easy to get swept up by the romance, and leave behind our friends. With the wonderful bliss that you feel when you enter into a relationship it’s easy to understand why we forget our friends and our everyday relationships. Is this the best way to handle a new relationship? Most likely not, sometimes in the tidal wave rush of new love we get swept away, and can forget the ties, and our desires that make us the special ...
The Philosophy of Fear and Confrontation
Is there now, or has there been, a person or two in your life that you have difficulty in maintaining a civil relationship with at times? It may be your spouse or lover; it may be a friend or a superior at work. We usually say "I have a love-hate relationship with this person."
Relationship Advice: 9 More Must Know Tips for Couples
The Law of Two Questions There are two questions that couples must ask and answer: 1) What do I want? 2) How do I help you get what you want? The Law of Conflict, Part 1 Much conflict is the result of failing to ask both of the above questions and/or an overemphasis on either one of the two. The Law of Conflict, Part 2 Conflict is an inevitable part of being with someone. One problem is that most of us go into marriage so terribly unprepared to ...
Married and ECheating – A Dreadful Alliance!
In Homer’s Odyssey (a Greek Myth) sailors were lured to their death by Sirens, mythological temptresses who sang seductive songs. Sailors called Argonauts escaped the songs, because of the great musician Orpheus. He played his lyre so beautifully, that it drowned out the songs from the Sirens. His decisive deed saved the crew from total devastation.
Relationship Conflict: 5 Deadly Mistakes and What to Do Instead
While conflict in marriage is inevitable, fighting is optional. The secret is in how you approach and handle the conflict. It can make the difference between a really great relationship and a breakup looking for a place to happen. With that notion in mind, let's take a look at five styles of handling conflict, along with alternative solutions for each. Ready-Fire-Aim These folks are the shooters of conflict. They live by the motto "cross me and you will pay." ...
Your Next Relationship Heaven or Hell?
We’ve all had relationships that we’ve looked back on and thought, “What was I thinking?’’ Problem is, you weren’t thinking. You based your decision strictly on chemistry and first impressions, and in the words of Elvis Presley, “That’s when your heartaches begin.” Would you like to make better choices in the future? This is your lucky day.
Being Romantic for a Change
Honestly, I do not know anyone who is romantic nowadays other than me and a few people I have met online. Is romance fading from our lives? And why is it always looked at as a silly trivial thing? Are not dreamy romantic people considered losers by some?
Getting Out... Together
So many things in society today try to urge us to focus on the “self”, with the “it’s all about me” attitude. As couples, or companionships, perhaps we should concentrate some of that “me” energy on “us”. More relationships would work so much better if we focused on doing what makes us both happy.
Infidelity: Difference Between a Rage and Revenge Affair
The fifth affair I outline in my book, "Break Free From The Affair" is called: "I Want to Get Back at Him/Her." This is the revenge affair.
Too Many Cooks in the Kitchen After Wife Gets MBA
"Hesh, where is your business plan?” It was a question I expected from my banker, but not from my wife. She tried to sweeten it by adding, “honey?” It didn’t help. I looked at her in disgust. I realized I had created a monster.
After Retirement Separation Life Just Gets Better!
Life after retirement separation can be a very lonely one especially if you have no family of your own. You tend not to go out as often as you did when you were a couple. You may also have a complex that being older is harder and more difficult to meet new people. This may be so for many people but do not forget that are hundreds of people out there that are in the same situation as yourself. They too are lonely and without a partner after retirement separation.
And They Didn't Even Know I was Looking: Lessons on Love from My Parents
I came from good people. I didn't always know that. You know, it's funny. When I was 18 I sustained an eye injury. (Okay, maybe it wasn't THAT funny.) The coral I was sterilizing for my fish tank overheated and exploded. I was hit in the eye, scratching my cornea and the rebound of the hit resulted in what the medical folks among you will recognize as a contra-coup lesion of my retina. Think of it like whiplash of the eye...it gets smashed in and ...
How to Survive an Affair Take Care!
Surviving an affair can be a very traumatic experience. Partners tend to know which strings to pull to antagonise the situation especially if there are children involved. This can often make you feel bitter and resentful and although you are the one that has been betrayed, you are also the one that will be continually hurt, this may seem unfair but as the old saying goes that’s the way the cookie crumbles.
It's Your Fault I Had An Affair!
When you read it like that, out of context, you’d be hard pressed to believe that anyone would have the nerve to come up with it as a serious justification for infidelity. Yet film star Jude Law has, allegedly, used this astonishing piece of sleight of mouth to justify a recent fling with his children’s nanny.
He Said, She Said
The Relationship Triangle Most people get involved in a relationship for the right reasons and leave a relationship for the wrong reasons. In fact, most of us have been guilty of it at one time or another and of being a complete spaz demanding we get our way in the relationship. Remember the movie He Said, She Said? A constant power struggle ensues when you make the relationship all about you. So why do we do it? I believe the reason this happens is that we make ...